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Differences between Love and Trauma Bond

Most individuals endure aching relationships not because they love the pain but the emotional attachment seems to be strong, absorbing and almost unbreakable. The relationship can be addictive and is characterized by a feeling of longingness, hope, fear, and short moments of intimacy that continue to draw them back. And even in situations where the relationship is distressing, anxiety-inducing or self-doubting, it can become more terrifying to quit the relationship than to remain.

This contradiction that is inside creates a very perplexing question:
Is it love, or is it a trauma connection?

The misunderstanding comes in the fact that the bonds of trauma may also disguise as love. Severity is confused with passion, drama and drama for emotions, and bonding with belonging. The inconsistent affection, which is handed over and withheld at random, causes the nervous system to be set into action which strengthens the bond between them by creating an emotional craving instead of emotion safety.

Emotional well-being, healthy attachment, and relational healing relies on the understanding of the distinction between love and trauma bonding. Unconsciously, individuals can carry on with accustoming themselves to pain, turning a blind eye to their needs, or remain in circles that are comfortable but utterly disappointing. Understanding what is occurring under the carpet is usually the initial step towards being able to select relationships that are not only emotionally potent- but emotionally secure.

What Is Love? (From a Psychological Perspective)

New romantic love is based on emotional safety, consistency, and respect. It does not need to be afraid, to be filled with doubts or to win affection. Rather, it builds up a relational atmosphere in which the two individuals feel safe enough to be themselves and vulnerable and emotionally available. Connection is not what you need to pursue in a healthy love it is a gift given without any fee and one of the aspects that are consistently sustained.

This type of love enables the two individuals to develop, both as individuals and as a couple. Personal development does not pose a threat to the relationship but is seen as an enhancement of the relationship. Diversity is considered and needs are addressed and individuality respected instead of being smothered out.

Key features of healthy love include:

  • Emotional availability and open communication – feelings, needs, and concerns can be expressed without fear of dismissal, ridicule, or punishment.

  • Consistency in care and behavior – affection, attention, and respect are stable, not dependent on moods, power, or control.

  • Respect for boundaries – “no” is honored, autonomy is valued, and personal limits are not crossed to maintain closeness.

  • Repair after conflict – disagreements are followed by accountability, understanding, and reconnection, not prolonged withdrawal or emotional punishment.

  • Feeling calm, secure, and valued – the relationship soothes the nervous system rather than constantly activating anxiety or fear.

  • Freedom to be yourself without fear – you don’t have to shrink, perform, or abandon parts of yourself to be loved.

There is no self-abandonment that is required of healthy love to survive. You do not need to repress, endure victimization or demonstrate your value all the time. Rather, love is your emotional safe haven, where association helps to sustain you and not your identity.

What Is a Trauma Bond?

Trauma bond is developed when emotional attachment is developed based on pain and relief repetitive cycles, instead of safety and consistency. The bonds tend to occur in relationships where emotional neglect, unpredictability, or abuse is involved and where there are moments of intimacy and then withdrawal, condemnation, or emotional abuse. Gradually, the nervous system begins to connote connection with distress and reprieve with love.

Psychologically, intermittent reinforcement is the cause of trauma bonding. This is found when affection, validation or attention is provided in varying ways, at one time warm and connecting, and at other times cold and rejecting. Since there is no predictability of the reward, the brain is made as more focused on it. The bonding occurs not due to a healthy relationship but as a result of the nervous system being trapped in the process of anticipation, anxiety and temporary relief.

Passion is confused with intensity and longing with love in the trauma-bonded relationships. The peaks are euphoric and the saddens devastating-forming a strong attachment loop which is hard to lure even in situations where the relationship inflicts great emotional pain.

Common conditions where trauma bonds form include:

  • Emotionally unavailable or inconsistent partners – affection is offered unpredictably, keeping the person in a constant state of hope and anxiety.

  • Relationships involving manipulation, gaslighting, or control – reality is distorted, self-trust erodes, and dependency increases.

  • One-sided emotional labor – one person carries the responsibility for maintaining connection, repair, and emotional stability.

  • Fear of abandonment or rejection – staying feels safer than the perceived pain of being alone, even when the relationship is harmful.

  • Childhood attachment wounds replayed in adulthood – early experiences of inconsistency or neglect shape what feels familiar, even when it is painful.

Trauma bonds do not reflect weakness or inability to make a good judgment. These are survival mechanisms of adaptation that are influenced by the brain and nervous system in a kind of environment where love and pain were brought together. The healing process starts not by self-blame, but by learning and understanding that love is not supposed to hurt in order to be experienced.

Love vs Trauma Bond: Key Differences

Love Trauma Bond
Feels safe and steady Feels intense and chaotic
Encourages growth Keeps you stuck in survival mode
You feel valued You feel anxious about losing them
Needs are acknowledged Needs are minimized or ignored
Conflict leads to repair Conflict leads to fear or withdrawal
Calm nervous system Activated, dysregulated nervous system

How Your Body Tells the Truth

A traumatic bond can be shown by your nervous system, not just your thoughts or feelings, as one of the most evident signs as to whether you are in love or a trauma bond. The truth is something that is usually known by the body much before the mind can comprehend it.

The nervous system of a healthy love is grounded and regulated. Even in the period of conflict or emotional distress, it has a sensual feeling of security. War is not something that soothes that the relationship is at risk. You can calm yourself down, interact, and hope that the bond will be re-established. Love can be rather provoking, but it does not put you in a state of constant fear.

The body in the trauma-bonded relationships always stays alert or in survival mode. This can be accompanied by constant overthinking, hypervigilance, disposition to messages, repeating messages, or tracking tone change. The fear of leaving people is put at the forefront, and the moods are oscillated between a high level of intimacy and a strong sense of distress. The mood swings and mood busts are not indicators of passion, but indicators of imbalance in the nervous system.

The body is able to become accustomed to relating anxiety to affiliation and reprieve to affection, as time passes. It is the reason why the state of being calm may be boring or new, whereas disorder is attractive and seductive. Peace is not always love when it is uncomfortable and instability is exciting and it might be conditioning due to past attachment wounds.

Healing is about educating the nervous system that it is not dull and safe and still, but safe. And that love neither needs fear to live.

Why Trauma Bonds Feel So Strong

Trauma bonds do not indicate personal weakness, bad judgment, and emotional dependency. These are survival strategies of adaptation- the mind/ body attempt to keep connected to those environments where safety and consistency were questionable. With little or unstable care, love, or confirmation, the nervous system comes to learn clinging desperately to whatever relief can be found.

The brain starts relating short episodes of love, warmth or care with elimination of emotional suffering. These occasions serve as emotional terms of consolation, soothing troublingness to an extent that strengthens the bond. This builds a strong commitment cycle whereby the relationship is bound not by constant affection, but by the pain-temporary relief contrast.

The repeated cycle results in the relationship not being built upon any sincerity but a lack of loss, leaving, or emotional retreat. The fear rather than the safety is the cement that binds the bond together. Even in the case where the relationship is most distressing, the prospect of losing the tie may cause a lot of anxiety, grief, or even panic.

This is the reason why it is easier to keep than to leave. To remain means familiarity, predictability and partial relief whereas to leave means to experience emotional free fall. It is essential to learn about this process, not to give oneself an excuse to feel bad but to acknowledge this with the purpose to substitute self-blame with clarity. The process of healing can start when the nervous system gradually gets to know that it does not have to be injured to be connected, that safety can be achieved without hurting.

Breaking the Trauma Bond Begins with Awareness

Healing does not start with blaming yourself or the other person. It begins with recognition.

Ask yourself:

  • Do I feel more anxious than safe in this relationship?

  • Am I staying for connection—or to avoid abandonment?

  • Do I feel seen, or am I constantly trying to be enough?

Choosing emotional safety over familiarity is not giving up on love—it is returning to yourself.

Love Heals. Trauma Bonds Hook.

Love broadens out your self-image.
It promotes interest, self-confidence and emotional expression. You are more yourself in love, not smaller or quieter or less worthy but complete and less airy.

Trauma bonds on the contrary reduce the self.
They make your emotional sphere smaller; about coping with anxiety and preemptive response and maintaining connection at all costs. In the long run, your needs, voice, and identity may be marginalized to the background with survival in the limelight.

Healing is not the fast track of detaching and moving on. It is initiated by self-compassion, which refers to the realization that your to which you were attached was logical considering what you went through. The body gradually discovers a new reality, though, that safety need not be learned by pain, by means of the nervous system control, emotional intuition, and even professional help.

As this healing progresses it is possible to find what seemed magnetic to grow wearying. The anarchy that seemed like unity might become deceptive. And what used to seem strange–or even dull,–the quiet, the sameness, the tranquil existence, may gradually start to represent home.

Frequently Asked Questions (FAQ)

1. Can love and trauma bonding coexist in the same relationship?

Yes. Love may be present in a relationship and yet traumatized. This does not necessarily imply that the bond is healthy because of the presence of a caring individual. It is whether the relationship is sustained on the basis of emotional protection and stability or fear, anxiety and intermittent reinforcement.

2. Why does a trauma bond have more strength than healthy love?

Trauma bonds balance the brain reward system together with the stress system. The uncertainty of affection heightens emotional desire such that the attachment becomes desperate and very strong. Healthy love is smoother and it may not seem exciting at first in case the nerve system is programmed to madness.

3. Can a trauma bond be dissolved without a relationship?

In other instances, recovery is possible when the relationship grows to be reliable, responsible, and responsive in the long run. Nevertheless, the length of trauma bonds might demand physical space or physical separation of the nervous system so that it re-tunes- particularly in the presence of abuse, manipulation, or chronic neglect.

4. Why am I missing the person who abused me?

Not wanting someone who hurt you does not imply you are a weak or disoriented person. The emotional and bodily brain is not the only place of storing attachment but logic. The desire is usually a depiction of unfinished attachment needs, and not the yearning to go back to hurt.

5. What is the duration of healing a trauma bond?

There is no fixed timeline. The factors that determine healing include attachment history, regulation of the nervous system, emotional support and work therapy. Consciousness and understanding are slowly reduced, and the mind becomes clearer.

6. Is it true that therapy is beneficial to trauma bonding?

Yes. Therapy, particularly attachment-informed, trauma-informed or somatic treatment, assists people to comprehend patterns, manage the nervous system, repair self-trust and create more healthy templates of relationships.

7. What are some of the signs that I am heading to healthy love?

There are indications such as being relaxed instead of anxious, being able to communicate needs without fear, confidence in consistency, and the absence of mistaking intensity and intimacy. Peace starts to get safe, not tedious.

Written by Baishakhi Das

Counselor | Mental Health Practitioner
B.Sc, M.Sc, PG Diploma in Counseling

References & Further Reading

  • American Psychological Association (APA)
    https://www.apa.org
    (Attachment, trauma, relationship psychology)

  • National Institute of Mental Health (NIMH)
    https://www.nimh.nih.gov
    (Trauma, emotional regulation, mental health)

  • Bowlby, J. (1988). A Secure Base: Parent-Child Attachment and Healthy Human Development
    (Foundational attachment theory)

  • Herman, J. L. (1992). Trauma and Recovery
    (Psychological trauma and relational impact)

  • van der Kolk, B. (2014). The Body Keeps the Score
    (Trauma, nervous system, and healing)

  • Linehan, M. (2015). DBT Skills Training Manual
    (Emotion regulation and interpersonal effectiveness)

  • Why You Miss People Who Hurt You

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Psychology Behind Staying in Relationships That Hurt

It is a question that persists among many individuals as to why a person would continue to be in a relationship that brings in emotional hurt or neglect. It is a matter of mere words, it appears that it is not so complicated, and when it hurts, one should leave. Psychology however demonstrates that maintaining is hardly weakness. They are aware that they are being hurt, they can feel it in over and over disappointments, need denials and emotional lack of companionship. Leaving is not only a logical process; it is also an emotional process and a process of the nervous system.

In the everyday life, this usually appears in the form of excuse-making over rudeness, clinging to tiny surfaces of tenderness, or wishing that things could go back to their old ways. Pain is familiar to a number of people since the relationships they had in early stages of life taught them that love is inconsistent or emotionally taxing. The unknown may be unsafe in comparison with what is familiar.

The fear of being alone, self-doubt and social pressure may silently hold people back. They could downsize the needs over the years, evade conflict, and modify themselves to the relationship. Knowledge of these patterns can be used to find an alternative to self-blame of self-compassion-and the initial step to recovery and better relationships.

1. Attachment Patterns Formed in Childhood

The experiences of being close to someone in our adulthood are influenced by our first relationships. The attachment theory states that the manner in which our emotions, needs, and distress were addressed by caregivers was a template to love and connection that would be kept as an internal record.

  • In anxious attachment,
    relationships usually make life worryful and prone to thinking. The fear of being deserted can be very strong due to a delay in the response, a change in the tone, or distance in nature. Human beings can be in painful relationships, as the fear of losing an individual being felt more than the pain of remaining. They can be over-giving, people-pleasing or bury their needs to ensure that the relationship remains alive.
  • In the avoidant attachment,
    emotional distance may seem normal. Such one can manifest itself in everyday communication (reducing self-importance, not talking deeply or too closely). Negligence or emotional unavailability is not necessarily experienced as an issue since an early teaching of independence and emotional self-reliance was a source of defense.
  • Fearful-avoidant attachment

    tends to be confusing in push-pull fashion. Someone might want to be intimate, reassured, and close, but when he or she does, he/she will feel overwhelmed and unsafe. In real life, this might present itself as the desire to connect and then withdraw after emotional experiences, initiating fights after intimacy, or being ambivalent about remaining or leaving.

In cases where love during childhood was absent, or lacking, or conditional, the nervous system learns to be vigilant. Emotional instability can be comfortable to adults, whereas stability can be alien and even boring. What is familiar may become familiar as right, even in cases where it is painful, not because it is healthy, but because it is familiar.

Knowing these patterns of attachment makes individuals understand that their relationship problems are not personal failures, but acquired emotional reactions, and that such patterns can be addressed with understanding and secure connection.

2. Trauma Bonding and Intermittent Reinforcement

Trauma bonding is one of the potent psychological traps, as a cycle of emotional pain, after which there is a short period of affection, apology, or hope. In our everyday lives, this can be in form of constant quarrels, emotional withdrawal, and offensive behavior, followed by brief bursts of kindness, vows to change, or extreme intimacy. Such brief good moments may be a relief and very significant following a period of pain.

This tendency operates based on the intermittent reinforcement, which is the same psychological process that is observed in gambling. Since love and care cannot be forecasted, the mind will be preoccupied with the next good time to occur. The doubt leaves an individual emotionally engaged even in a case where the relationship is largely torturous.

The brain releases dopamine when one chooses to reconcile, an apology, a loving message or even when you physically get closer to a person, this is what creates a feeling of relief and emotional reward. It can even be a relief, as love. The bond becomes even stronger with time, and the reason is not that the relationship is healthy, but due to the conditioning of the nervous system to find some relief against distress.

As time passes, the relationship turns less about caring about each other and more about suffering in that quest to expand on those short periods of intercourse. Knowing about trauma bonding can make people understand that they are not addicted to an individual, it is just that they have gotten stuck in a strong cycle of psychology, which can be freed with awareness, safety, and support.

3. Fear of Loneliness and Abandonment

To a great number of individuals, the prospect of being alone is more terrifying than living in emotional distress. Loneliness may trigger profound survival anxiety, particularly in the persons who were conditioned at their early years of life that they are loved and needed and are chosen. Solitude will not only be uncomfortable, but unsafe.

This fear manifests itself in daily life in silent forms such as, at least I am not alone or this is a lot better than nothing. Individuals can remain at such relationships when they feel unnoticed or emotionally deprived just because the company of a person is better than being lonely. Common practices, communications, or even complaints may seem as comforting as nothing at all.

The relationship eventually becomes an antidote to loneliness and not a place of actual connection. The feeling needs gradually grow smaller, self-esteem is bound to the presence of the relationship, and suffering is accepted to not be alone. Coming to terms with this fear can make individuals realize that survival is frequently about being strong, rather than being weak, and that learning to feel safe on your own is a strong move towards healthier relationships.

4. Low Self-Worth and Internalized Beliefs

People who stay in hurtful relationships often carry internalized beliefs such as:

  • “I don’t deserve better”

  • “This is the best I can get”

  • “Love always hurts”

Such beliefs might be a result of criticism experienced in the past, emotional neglect or repeated invalidation. The normalization of pain and healthy love may be strange and undeserving over time.

5. Hope for Change and the “Potential” Trap

People tend to stay in the agonizing relationships due to the fact that they are in love with whom the individual would be, rather than with whom he/she would remain to be all the time. They desperately cling to the memories of how things used to be in the start or to the few occasions when the partner takes care, is warm or understanding. In everyday life, this manifests itself as waiting until the better side of the individual comes back and that love, patience or sacrifice will one day result in an enduring change.

Mental images like the ones that state that they have not always been that way or that they will change in case one loves them sufficiently can have one emotionally involved even after being disappointed many times. With every minor change or a note of apology, hope is strengthened, although the general trend is the same.

This is psychologically reinforced by cognitive dissonance. The mind is torn between two painful truths at the same time that someone is both loved and hurting at the same time many times. The mind dwells on potential, intentions or promises in the future instead of current conduct to minimize this inner conflict. Hope is developed as a coping mechanism.

This might overtime make people become tolerant to some circumstances that they would never recommend other people to tolerate. Knowing this tendency can assist in moving the focus off of what one may be to how the relationship actually is day after day- and knowing it it tends to happen can be the first step to change.

6. Nervous System Conditioning

The nervous system of a person might become dysregulated when he/she lives in the state of chronic emotional stress and gets used to the level of tension, uncertainty, or emotional ups and downs. With time, the body gets to be on high alert. In everyday life, this can manifest itself in the form of constantly anticipating a conflict, overthinking the approach or mannerism, or being anxious when there would be nothing to be bad.

Consequently, disorder and emotional instability come to be normal and predictable, stable, steady relationships may become foreign or even dangerous. Others refer to healthy relationships as being boring not that it is not a connection, but due to the fact that a nervous system is not used to being calm.

That is why individuals might be uncomfortable in steady respectful relationships there is no adrenaline, no emotional hunt, and no necessity to remain hyper-vigilant. The body mixes passion with passion and indifference with apathy. The healing process consists of gradually reconditioning the nervous system to perceive safety, balance and emotional expression as indicators of authentic connection and not threat.

7. Social, Cultural, and Practical Pressures

Beyond internal psychology, external factors also play a role:

  • Societal expectations around marriage or commitment

  • Fear of judgment, especially for women

  • Financial dependence or shared responsibilities

  • Concern for children or family reputation

These pressures can reinforce endurance over emotional safety, making leaving feel like failure rather than self-preservation.

8. Emotional Investment and the Sunk Cost Fallacy

And the longer a relationship spans the more difficult it may be to quit. In the long run, common memories, emotional commitment, sacrifices, habits, and even a collective identity form a sense of duty. The concept of leaving can be daunting, because one learns to live in the day, routine, family ties, dreams and aspirations, and it seems that they lose a part of themselves in the process.

In this case, the sunk cost fallacy becomes influential. One might be tempted to believe that he/she has already devoted so much of his/her time, love, and effort to it, and, by departing, he/she will only render it pointless. The history of investment starts justifying the current suffering. Rather than inquiring about the healthiness of the relationship at the moment, the question is how much has been lost already.

This in real life can manifest itself in terms of staying a little more, hoping that things will get better to make the hard work worth it. Endurance is not an indicator of psychological well being. Surviving is not an indication of strength or love. The process of healing starts when individuals give themselves permission to select emotional safety and self-respect in place of the stress to make past hurt count.

Moving Toward Healing

Remaining in a painful relationship does not imply that one is weak. In more instances, it refers to the fact that they had to learn to survive on the basis of attachment, hope and perseverance. These tendencies used to make them feel secure, related or less isolated-although now they are painful. What appears as a case of staying too long to the external world is in most cases an internal struggle to defend the self emotionally.

It starts with consciousness during healing. Self-blame gives way to self-compassion when individuals see the reason why they remain. Awareness introduces the spaciousness to challenge traditional patterns and hear emotional requirements and envision relationships that are not because they are familiar but safe. Through this, change can be effected not by coercion, but through enlightenment and nurturing.

Helpful steps include:

  • Exploring attachment patterns through therapy

  • Learning nervous system regulation

  • Rebuilding self-worth and boundaries

  • Redefining love as safety, consistency, and emotional presence

Closing Thought

You do not hang about because you are mended. It remain because sometime in your life your brain and body have come to realize that love came with conditions. You were taught to adapt, wait, bear the pain, and hope, as these were the methods used to enable you to feel a part of or not so lonely. What seems to be endurance in these days was in the past a survival.

When love was forced to wait, or to keep still, or to sacrifice oneself, your system had been taught to believe that work is equal to value. You might have been taught to downplay your requirements, question your emotions, or hold that pangs are just part of intimacy. This can over time make emotional anguish, familiar to the self protection, unfamiliar or even egoistic.

Love should not be made to undermine you. It is not to get you to doubt your value, think on toes or dismiss your emotional reality. Healthy love gives you room to be safe, consistent and care about each other- it does not necessitate you to vanish and keep the relationship alive.

Making a choice is not to give up on oneself. It is not abandoning and losing love. Appreciating the fact that emotional well-being is important. It is the silent gesture of coming back to yourself after having spent years in remaining where you were not noticed. And with that decision, healing commences–not with a dramatic climax, but with an honest, sincere start.

Frequently Asked Questions (FAQ)

1. What provokes people to remain in relationships that are harmful to them?

Since psychological aspects such as attachment styles, fear of abandonment, trauma bonding, and conditioning of the nervous system can make leaving more dangerous than remaining.

2. Does that make one weak to remain in a painful relationship?

No. It is frequently a survival mechanism that is based on previous experiences, unfulfilled emotional needs, and acquired coping mechanisms.

3. What is trauma bonding?

Trauma bonding refers to an emotional bonding derived by the presence of pain and release that the short moments of affection strengthen the attachment in spite of the harm.

4. What is the impact of childhood on relationship in adulthood?

Premature relationships form inner models of affection and protection, which affect the way proximity, discord, and emotional demands are fulfilled in adulthood.

5. How does the attachment theory contribute to unhealthy relationships?

Styles of attachment (anxious, avoidant, fearful-avoidant) influence the way individuals react to intimacy conflict, and emotional availability.

6. What is so addictive about emotional unpredictability?

Intermittent reinforcement stimulates the release of dopamine which the brain becomes preferentially conditioned to seeking relief following distress like addictive behavior.

7. What is so strong about the fear of loneliness?

The loneliness may trigger the deepest of deep-seated survival fears, in part because of the tendency to equate self-worth with being chosen or needed.

8. What is cognitive dissonance within relationships?

It is the emotional uncomfortable nature of loving someone who makes someone suffer, usually being solved by holding onto hope, or possibility as opposed to reality.

9. When do healthy relationships get boring?

The nervous system can regulate itself in a way that considers love as something intense, and calmness and consistency become strange and unsafe.

10. What is sunk cost fallacy in relationships?

One of the beliefs is that breaking away would be a waste of time and effort put in even in the case where the relationship is bad.

11. Is that the unlearnability of such patterns?

Yes. Attachment and nervous system patterns can be cured with awareness, therapy, and safe relationships.

12. Is it necessary to love someone and tolerate pain?

No. Healthy love is about emotional safety, mutual respect and consistency- not self erasure and endurance.

13. Why do individuals wish that their partner should change?

The emotional investment, early bonding and the inability to accept loss or disappointments often lead to hope.

14. Is self-selection equivalent to self-sacrifice?

No. Making a choice in favor of oneself is an expression of self-respect and recovery, but not desertion.

15. In cases where is it appropriate to seek professional assistance?

Repeated patterns are used when the emotional pain seems too great, and it is not possible to get out of the situation despite the persistent harm.

Written by Baishakhi Das

Counselor | Mental Health Practitioner
B.Sc, M.Sc, PG Diploma in Counseling

Reference

  1. American Psychological Association (APA) – Relationships & Attachment
    https://www.apa.org/topics/relationships

  2. Psychology Today – Attachment Theory
    https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/basics/attachment

  3. Psychology Today – Trauma Bonding
    https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/basics/trauma-bonding

  4. National Institute of Mental Health (NIMH) – Mental Health & Relationships
    https://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/topics

  5. Harvard Health Publishing – Stress & the Nervous System
    https://www.health.harvard.edu/staying-healthy/understanding-the-stress-response

  6. The Gottman Institute – Healthy vs Unhealthy Relationships
    https://www.gottman.com/blog/category/relationships/

  7. Cleveland Clinic – Trauma Responses
    https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/trauma

  8. Mind UK – Emotional Well-being & Relationships
    https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/relationships/

  9. APA Dictionary of Psychology – Cognitive Dissonance
    https://dictionary.apa.org/cognitive-dissonance

  10. Why Emotionally Unavailable People Feel So Familiar

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